When you need to "do the work" and that's less of a deep emotional reckoning and more like getting over the phone-fear to call the dentist... here's my top 5 self-care things that suck to do, but have the best return on investment I've ever seen!
on gratitude, the evolution of the last 2 years, and how things are moving forward...
I lived a life where I presented everything as perfect and it was a little creepy, despite being dishonest and a horrible lie to keep up for a long time. My subtle language and cries for help were hidden in gorgeous light-filled instagrams of beaches and brunch and girlfriends dates and blog posts of my sunny California life and gorgeous photography and no one noticed because I crafted a beautiful lie. I didn't know how to use my voice to ask for help. I didn't know I needed help. I just kept hustling and trying to be perfect like everyone else around me until it came crashing down and my body forced me stop because it stopped working. I was sick in body, and in mind and it finally became time to fix it. Image by Mary Marantz
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On the swim team in high school, we used to have massage trains.
I was always involved, I think I was probably the one who started them usually when someone asked me to rub their shoulders. I never really thought of massage therapy or any kind of physical manual therapy as a career choice, I just wanted to be an artist.
In 2014, I had been running my photography portrait business for 5 years and I was burning out. I loved what I did but it was breaking my body and my spirit. I remember the moment I was ready to make a change-- I was getting my haircut on a really horrible Monday and my stylist was talking about facials. I had never had one, so I just decided on the spot to get one after my cut. It changed my life to be touched in such a gentle and loving way. I had gotten massages before, but they kind of felt like I was getting beat up because my muscles were so tense!
I went home and started looking up esthetician and massage schools and found the perfect fit in Northern San Diego at the Natural Healing Institute of Naturotherapy. I dove into their program and finished within a 15 months as a certified massage therapist in the state of California. I tried every modality I could-- hot stone massage, craniosacral therapy, Reiki, energy + polarity work, reflexology, lymphatic drainage massage, deep tissue, myofascial release, and more. I really aligned with deep tissue and craniosacral therapy and began taking clients.
When we graduated, I told my best friend from massage school that we were starting a practice together and she was going to be my partner. My entrepreneur mindset just could NOT fathom working for a company that would pay me $16 an hour to do massage when I could make $60-120 an hour on my own. So, that began Être... my luxurious relaxation focused massage company with Darby Hanson.
Shortly after we started to build our clientele, I was called back to the east coast. I set Darby up as a solo practitioner because I was the crazy friend who made her start a business and a practice when she had no business experience but she's a kick ass therapist now and I am SO proud of her!!!
In Virginia, I worked at a chiropractor's office learning the ins and outs of office culture, scheduling a large volume of clients and waiting and waiting for my massage license to come in. Sure enough, just about a month or two after I was able to start massaging I got my first Thai massage as a birthday gift from another AMAZING therapist/soulfriend who changed my life (love you Tangee!!) and it changed my life so significantly that I quit my job to go back to school at Woven Body Healing Arts.
Since then, life has been a WHIRLWIND. I began my gypsy adventure just a month after starting Thai school, traveling up and down the east coast, and to bits of the west coast, learning, doing bodywork and finding where I wanted to truly land and build my practice for the next year. I studied over 400 hours of Thai Massage, and I traveled to Thailand in January 2017 to deepen my personal practices that are an important part of Thai practitioner life.
I am now FINALLY settled in Brooklyn, NYC to build my practice and the business that has been bursting out of my heart the last few years. My skills and experience in women's health have helped me find a wonderful clientele that continues to grow in this city and across the US. I can't wait to see where this wild life takes me next!
For 17 glorious days at the beginning of 2017 I traveled throughout Bangkok and Chiang Mai, Thailand with students of Woven Body Healing Arts. We studied so much Thai culture, meditation, and traditional healing practices getting to observe the coolest things and meet the most wonderful people.
I still have a hard time talking about the trip because it was so amazing. I took my 35mm film camera and shot about 20 rolls of color film while I was there. They are patiently waiting to be developed... so here are some phone photos to try to give you a glimpse of this amazing journey... One day I'll share the stories :)
I'm Kaiya. Katie. KTUN. KK. Kai. You name it, I will probably answer. Welcome to this space, there's a few things you should know about me while you are here. I am anti-hustle. I am pro-early morning snuggles. Dapples of sunlight filtering through sheer curtains feel magical to me. I'm a Pisces, Libra Rising and Moon in Virgo. I believe giving you that information tells you more about me than I could ever write here. I believe in all things magical, mystical, ethereal, and impossible because life has shown me that relying on expectations becomes the death of what is familiar, and trusting in the unknown will take you on an incredible adventure.
Healing + the arts have infused themselves into every ounce of my being-- my life and my business are one. My creative endeavors-- photography, bookmaking + painting-- help me integrate my healing work-- subtle energetic emotional release that unravels the binds of ancestral epigenetic patterns and allows my true self to emerge. I'm outrageously transparent + wear my heart on my sleeve because of this simple truth:
“I BELIEVE MY PURPOSE IS TO SHARE MY STORY + TO CHANNEL LIGHT, LOVE + HEALING TO OTHER WOMEN TO HELP AWAKEN THE DIVINE FEMININE WITHIN THEM.”
It's taken me an immense amount of pain, moving, wandering, heartbreak, loss, and feeling oceans worth of emotions to come to this. I realize it sounds outrageous and strange to some people. But to others... I feel like it's the message they've been looking for. I'm here to walk this path with you... the path of getting to know your true self, learning to love the wild woman hiding inside of you, embracing all of the beauty this earth has to offer us, and deepening the magic that we all have access to, but have lost through time.
So thank you for getting to know me a little bit, for giving me a chance to show you the possibilities of what this world has to offer. I would love to connect with you more and see where our paths take us.